Letting Go And Coming Home

There is a myth about meditation. A lot of people think that it is something you can do well or do poorly.

I often work with people who are brand new to meditation. Sometimes they say they have “tried it but haven’t done it right” or feel that they “can’t do it.”

But here’s the thing. Meditation is a practice. Even for the seasoned practitioner, there are times when it is challenging to sit and be still with whatever arises.

The key is that there is an underlying dedication to the practice. That and an insistence to return to it time and again…especially when it’s difficult.

But it even goes beyond the dedication to return to our practice. We want to return to a baseline, to the present moment, while we are practicing.

You Can’t Stop Your Thoughts

Because we are all irrevocably human, our mind will continue to generate thought. For a host of reasons, we are conditioned to engage in conversation with our minds.

It’s commonplace as we move about our days to have a running internal dialogue.

So it’s silly to think that when we pause to meditate that our minds will suddenly stop, and our pattern of engaging with our thoughts will automagically cease.

So what’s a meditator to do?

Don’t Take The Bait

Our aim in meditation is to acknowledge the presence of thought without returning the volley. “Oh, thought is present now. Oh, okay.”

However, it’s folly to think that is either easy or that if you do find yourself talking back to your mind that you are meditating “wrong.”

Instead, you practice noticing that you’re caught in that sticky web of thought, and then you choose to let go of the conversation and return your awareness to the present moment.

This is a powerful teaching, not only for relating to and controlling our awareness, but for life.

Meditation Is Training For Life

I eat well and I exercise regularly. I’m proud of this. But that does’t mean I eat well everyday. It does’t mean I exercise everyday. In fact, there may be a span of a few weeks where I’m not taking optimal care of my body.

The overarching process is one where I recognize when I’m off-center, let go of the behaviors I’m clinging to, and then return home to that place of health and awareness.

This is the broader theme that meditation practice feeds.

We are imperfect. We are humans. When I’m meditating and I realize I’m off indulging in thought about what I have to do later, or what last night’s dream was about, or how my dog needs a bath, I could beat myself up for thinking (“That’s not what I’m supposed to be doing right now!”).

I’m familiar with that path—the unhealthy negative spiral of self-chastising for not meditating “properly.”

Likewise, when I realize that I haven’t been eating well lately, and I’m feeling the effects from it, I could scold myself for not being a perfect beacon of health.

But that solves nothing. Shaming myself hasn’t ever changed my behavior. It just makes me feel bad.

So instead, just as I let go of thoughts in meditation, I can let go of my poor diet and exercise patterns with ease. And by doing so, I free myself to return back home, back to the place of health.

The Benefits Of Practice

Over time, I’m less likely to get swept away by background noise in meditation. Sure, I still get hooked into thought, but it’s not as frequent.

More importantly, I’m quicker to notice that I’ve strayed from my center, away from the space of just being.

Likewise, over time, it takes me less to recognize I am off in a not super healthy space of food and exercise, so I don’t stray as far.

I don’t expect every meal I eat for the rest of my life to be one of the perfect mix of fruits and locally-grown vegetables, whole grains, organic, grass-fed wild-caught meats, without ever imbibing a hint of sugar, caffeine, or alcohol.

I do expect that the more I set my anchor in the place of health, the more quickly and easily I will recognize when I have strayed from that, and be able to come back to that mooring.

This is true for any pattern of behavior. For some, it will be working hard. For others, it will be putting energy into their relationship, or shopping and spending money, or setting healthy boundaries with family members.

Meditation Means Coming Home

We all are human. We each have our challenges.

The practice of meditation gives us the tools to establish ourselves in the present moment and to notice all sensation without judgment, so that we may return to that place time and again when we notice we have strayed.

We’re free to apply this to our lives in a multitude of ways.

With meditation practice, we ground in a place of physical health, or financial balance, or personal boundary, and then we notice when we have strayed, and then we come gently back to that solid silent homeground.

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